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Listening Quality

I. I Hear:

I often hear the following aspiration to learn the listening quality:

"We invoke your name, Avalokiteshvara. We aspire to learn your way of listening in order to help relieve the suffering in the world. You know how to listen in order to understand. We invoke your name in order to practice listening with all our attention and open-heartedness. We will sit and listen without any prejudice. We will sit and listen without judging or reacting. We will sit and listen in order to understand. We will sit and listen so attentively that we will be able to hear what the other person is saying and also what is being left unsaid. We know that just by listening deeply we already alleviate a great deal of pain and suffering in the other person."

II. I Contemplate:

I like to talk:

Not only do I like to talk but I also like for others to agree with me, to appreciate and acknowledge me. I also like to have ‘the last words’ in and I especially hate it when people hang up on me! When I can express all that’s bottled up in me, I feel understood and less apprehensive about things. On the contrary, when people talk, I already know where they’re going with it. I can’t wait to tell them my experience or my better ideas. If only they can hear my better response! I usually tell them: "Not bad idea, but the best way to do this is Listen to this."

Why should I listen to you so emphatically?

I listen to you so emphatically because at the present moment, you have my full attention. I wantto hear all you have to say; I want to appreciate your feelings; I want to pick up your body language;

I don’t want to miss what you intend to communicate to me including what is left unsaid. Only by listening to you this way can I fully honor you and your words. In the future, when I look back, I won’t regret having missed the opportunity to understand you.

When I listen to you emphatically, I give you all the time you need to share your feelings. I trust that, in return, you will take the time to listen to me when and if I have something to say. Often when I am stubborn with an idea, I shut people out because I don’t want them to change my mind.

I take a big risk when I listen to you with all my heart because you may convince me with your arguments. However, I’m willing to risk changing my position and I hope you are willing to do that too.

III. I Practice:

When you don’t want to talk:

There are times when you may not feel safe to share very personal things or sensitive things with me. In those cases, I need to make you feel safe by sharing myself with you. The more authentic and intimate things I’m sharing with you, the more you’ll feel safe to speak your mind.

My attention is very short; I can’t focus long:

With practice and meditation, I will increase my ability to concentrate and listen. Meanwhile, I practice to mentally repeat the last word of every sentence you speak. By doing this, I can follow you effectively and I can even repeat what you said.

How do I quiet the thoughts in my head to listen to you? Again, this also relates to my ability to concentrate and I will improve it by meditating.

I can increase my concentration on you by:

_ Being in the frame of mind that you are most important to me and there’s nothing I rather do than listening to you and help you speak you mind.

_ Focus my eyes on the space between your nose and upper lip.

_ Maintain my breathing: long and slow.

_ Notice my urges to interrupt, judge, evaluate, defend, explain, counter and notice them disappear. Concentrate on long and slow breathing.

_ Encouraging you to speak more so you open up more. Use punctuations such as: I see. I hear you. What else works for you? What else doesn’t work for you?

Summary:

Being able to listen to you and others is important to me. I vow to practice listening with the quality inspired by the Bodhisattva Avalokiteshvara. I listen without prejudice so I can understand you to contribute to you and let you contribute to me. I’ll practice meditation and living in mindfulness to improve my ability to listen to you and to others.

I also will practice listening to nature so I can hear the wind, the bird singing, the leaves in the tree. By listening to nature, I connect with nature at a deep level. I realize I’m one with nature - I have never been born; I have never died. This gives me peace and relieves my fear of death.

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2.     Đức Phật A-Di-Đà
A-Di-Đà Buddha (Amitabha)

3.     Đức Quán Thế Âm Bồ Tát
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4.     Sáu Phép Hòa Kính
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5.     Bốn Ân
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6.     Năm Giới
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7.     Bốn Nhiếp Pháp
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8.     Hiểu và Thuộc Nghi Thức Thông Thường
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9.     Ý Nghĩa Cờ Phật Giáo
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10.  Người Nông Dân Phản Bội
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11.  Con Khỉ Có Lòng Từ Bi
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12.  Vua Si-Vi
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14.  Hạnh Lắng Nghe
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